Sorry I have been missing, like any good blogger…I have become a bad blogger LOL! Sometimes life with two small children leaves time for little else than a quick e-mail check.

Anyhoo I just had to respond to the overwhelming response to My Predicament.  And believe it or not I did have “the conversation” with my husband last weekend, this was before reading your comments, but they have helped reinforce my happiness about the conversation.  I staged a scene for the first time in a long time……

We decided we desperately needed some time alone….and naked! While my hubby took the kids to the babysitter for the evening I hurried up and created a dark and romantic setting in our room. I posted a sign on the bedroom door that said

Read this before Entering: Tonight I am your slave. Do with me as you wish. Please me, Hurt Me, Love me etc… (that is a very condensed version of the note) and I had myself positioned on the bed with a blindfold. I had laid out various lotions, potions and sex toys, along with his black leather belt.  He chuckled with delight at the ’sex buffet’ and I heard him pick up the belt. The clang of the buckle sent shock waves of excitement through my body. “Hmm what should I do with this?” he asked. I couldn’t contain my smile when I thought he might actually use it!!! Alas he put it down and began on a much more romantic journey for the night, which was quite fun and satisfying but afterwards came the opportunity to talk about it. I told him how the sound of the belt buckle had made me feel, I told him that it was just as if he had bit my nipple, it sent a shock of pleasure through my loins! He seemed pleasantly surprised. “Really?!” so then I just spilled it. I told him I had fantasized about pain for years, I told him about Mina and Amorphous’s blog and how their adventures were very similar to the fantasies in my mind, I explained the things I had learned about the BDSM community and things I thought sounded fun and the things I thought I would not be interested in. He seemed very receptive to the idea of exploring this a bit further. I do think he still has the “I’m not supposed to hurt a woman” thing going on, but he seemed excited. I told him that I had hoped he would whip me with the belt. He said he didn’t think the belt was very flexible and might not be a good tool to use. He joked that we should get a whip…..I told him I would look into that right away! :0)  

I’ll keep you posted!